YOUR SIMPLE 10 MINUTES DE-STRESS PLAN
- Its hard to avoid stress in this modern world, but you can only need 10 minutes to shrug off the worst of its effects, whether you're at home or at work.
Stress is hard to avoid in the fast-moving modern world, but there are many ways to deal with it. One of the most important rules is to make sure you don't let small stresses build up into something much more serious. Always ensure that you take a 10-minute break between one stressful task and the next - at home, work or even in your spare time. This will give your mind and body a chance to unwind before you launch into the next potential cause of stress build-up.
Take 10 to unwind
If you're feeling particularly frazzled, try carrying out the simple 10-minute stress relieving exercise we will show you over in this blog. You can carry this out anywhere, at any time - on the crowded journey home, in your workplace, or even in a supermarket queue. You'll be amazed at how quickly in helps you to feel much better.
Try not to let stress build up during the day. Every time you feel stressed, take a 10-minute break to unwind,
PREPARING TO DE-STRESS
Before you start your de-stress exercise, find a suitable area and try to distract your mind from the stresses around you.
FRESH AIR
- If you can, pop outside and find a quiet spot in the fresh air. If you can't, just opening a window will make a difference, even on a bus or train.
AROMATHERAPY
- Flowers with strong scent such as geranium and lavender are good for easing anxiety; place a pot plant on your window sill or desk and let the breeze from outside waft its scent around the room. Place a few drops of essential oil on a hankie and breathe in the scent to help you relax.
SOOTHING SOUNDS
- Play soothing and melodic music; listening to it through personal stereo headphones is fine, or just imagine it in your mind. The gentle sounds of the sea or harmonious instrumental music with few words are best.
DE-STRESS IN 10 MINUTES
1. Gentle breathing (1 minute)
Sit comfortably on a chair, with your back straight and both feet on the ground. If you can't sit down stand as straight as possible without slouching or leaning against anything. Close your eyes and focus on your breathing. Try to let thoughts pass by, rather than pondering on them or daydreaming.
TENSE AND RELAX (4 minutes)
Make a fist with your right hand and tense all your muscles in your forearm. Hold the tension for five seconds and then exhale out of your mouth and relax your muscles for about 10 seconds. Now do the same on thing for each part of your body. Tighten each group of muscles, hold the release exhaling out of the mouth, then relax fully by closing your eyes and focusing on the natural breathe.
VISUALISE (3 minutes)
Next, try to recall a place or time where you felt content and relaxed, Use your imagination to reconstruct the place and how you felt when you were there. It might have been a beach holiday or mountains where you went hiking, Let yourself become totally immersed in the scene.
LET GO (1 minute)
Once your mind and body are completely relaxed, let go of your stress. Visualise a stream of light or energy pouring through your body and washing your stress away, or imagine the stress leaving your body with each breath out. Picture yourself getting through the rest of the day without stress by trying to anticipate and potentially difficult situations. Thinking about how you can get through them calmly will help you to put this into practice.
STRETCH (1 minute)
Keep your eyes closed and breathe in and out deeply. Enjoy the feeling of relaxation and rest. Move your fingers and toes playfully. Then breathe in and stretch your arms up over your head. Stretch your legs out in front of you. Now open your eyes.
PRACTICE RELAXING -The more often you do this 10-minutes stress relief plan, the better. You may be surprised at how relaxed and confident you start to feel, and how relaxed and confident you start to feel, and how the challenging parts of your life no longer feel nearly so daunting and stressful.
REDUCE STRESS WITH GOOD COMMUNICATION
At work and at home, the ability to communicate effectively can improve your relationships and resolve conflicts that cause stress
Good communication is crucial for reducing your stress levels. When we are misunderstood or criticised, we are misunderstood or criticised, we feel isolated and defensive. When conflict arises at home or work and we cannot discuss it in a constructive way, we often feel stressed and angry.
In any situation, let the other person know you are listening by nodding and making eye contact. Respond regularly by saying 'yes' or 'uhuh' and don't be afraid to ask for an explanation if you don't understand.
Dealing with conflict
Remember that constructive criticism in the best way to deal with any conflict. Always refer to the person's actions and behaviours, not to be person, for example 'I disagree with the way you handle your child', not 'You're a bad parent'. Equally, if someone is criticising you, try to listen without becoming defensive.
Clear communication with others will reduce confusion and conflict, as well as lower your stress levels
10 TIPS FOR BETTER COMMUNICATION
1. Talk face to face when possible, to encourage good work relationships
2. Write faxes and emails early in the day, as your communications skills deteriorate as you get tired
3. Listen to what others say even if you don't agree
4. Criticise constructively and try to be specific
5. Try to resolve problems without losing control of your emotions
6. Try not to avoid conflict or touchy subjects - its better to talk in through
7. Try to put yourself in the other persons shoes and listen to what they are saying
8. Express your opinions even if other people don't share them
9. Try not to get upset when someone disagrees with you
10. Admit when you are wrong or angry
EXPRESS YOUR FEELINGS - Its not always possible to avoid stress, but you can learn to cope with it better. Expressing your feelings can dramatically reduce stress levels and enhance your send of well-being.
Explore your feelings
Get in touch with your feelings. Being aware of how you feel - whether its anxious, depressed o angry - is the first step to dealing with stressful problems. This means taking time out from work and family to be alone. Keep a journal, take a walk on the beach or go and see a counsellor or therapist. Be honest with yourself.
Confide in a friend
At time of stress, we all need support from friends and family. If you feel overwhelmed by events, its good to get a new perspective on the problem. Share your feelings with people you trust, so you don't end up feeling exposed and even more stressed. But remember, friends may have their own problems so be prepared to listen as well as talk.
Time is right
Choose a time when the other person can listen - not when they are rushing out of the door. If your friend is too busy, let them know you have a problem and ask if they can set aside some time in the near future for you to talk.
Say what you mean
Never be afraid to say what you think, fell and believe. If you disagree with someone, try to a so. This can be hard if you are afraid they will be upset or angry, but in the long run communicating clearly will lead to better relationships and lower stress levels.
Keep to the facts
Under stress it's easy to distort problems, exaggerate the significance of an event or make sweeping generalisations. When explaining a problem to someone, always be as specific, realistic and objective as you can.
It's okay to cry
Cry when you feel hurt or grief. These feelings are the natural result of change and loss and a good cry can get them off your chest. Make time to honour and express your feelings. Perform a simple ritual like lightening a candle. Not giving yourself time to grieve can cause long -term stress and damage your health.
Saying sorry
Take responsibility for your mistakes and feelings of remorse or guilt,. Making amends will relieve your stress and improve your relationships. Write a card if you cant say it face to face. Once you have righted any wrongs , you'll be able to move on and leave your feelings of guilt behind.
Be kind to yourself
Give yourself time to feel happy! Stressed people often don't take time to laugh and feel pleasure and pride in their own achievements. Tell a friend why you're proud of yourself. Go out and celebrate, or buy yourself a present.
EIGHT STEPS TO WELL-EXPRESSED ANGER
1. Never shout at or hit another person when they are angry
2. Be direct and assertive. Don't express anger in passive ways such as the 'silent treatment'
3. Discharge aggression by hitting pillows or screaming - by yourself. Or do some strenuous exercise
4. Put your anger into words. Before you approach the person, write down 'I am sorry because ...'
5. Tell the person why you are angry in as calm and reasonable tone as possible
6. If you become furious again, ask if you can leave the conversation and come back when you feel calmer and can express your thoughts more clearly
7. Give the other person time to respond. Remember that many people find anger frightening
8 Be brave - expressing anger doesn't have to mean being out of control.